Thursday, September 20, 2012
Bully Intervention
Watch the following video clip about a mother who recently stepped in to protect her son from a boy who had been bullying him. Write a thoughtful reflection on the story, and its impact on the issue of bullying. Should parents have the right to step in to protect their children?
http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_c2#/video/bestoftv/2012/09/20/mom-fights-bully.wjxt
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Bullying is a prominent issue amongst teenagers now. Although this mother was trying to stick up for her son, I don't think it should have been handled with violence. Yes, I think that the way she was spoken to was disrespectful, but I don't think her reaction was appropriate. In my opinion, the mother should have contacted the principal of the school. If the bullying was not related and she felt that it was becoming really dangerous, she should have contacted the police. There are right and wrong ways to handle things, and it's easy to handle something the wrong way, even if one has good intentions. I think that parents should be involved in their children’s' lives to a certain degree. It is definitely a parent's job to protect them, however, their most significant responsibility is serving as a role model. Physical assault and violence never solves problems, they only create more. I think that although this mother had good intentions, she should have handled the situation differently, thus becoming a more respectable role model.
I think that the mother had the right to take charge of the situation. She was only trying to protect her son from being bullied because he needed help and obvious the school wasn't making sure the child was safe. The reason for all this happening is the bullys fault and if it wasn't for him beating up another kid, the mother wouldn't have ever got involved in the first place. I believe that the child made the right choice of telling his mom and it was right for the mom to take charge. I don't think she shouldn't have had charges pressed against her because the only reason why she did what she did is to protect her son. The woman was also right about disciplining the kid so he could learn his lesson and parents should have the right to get involved depending on the situation and this was the right situation for a parent to be involved.
I understand that today bullying is getting worse and worse. While I understand where the mother was coming from, it was completely inappropriate for her to step into the situation like that. Yes, she was trying to stick up for her son but there are ways around it. I fully agree that she should have gotten arrested for child abuse. There are more ways to go about bullying than to beat up a minor. Especially as a parent, you should be setting an example for your child that violence is not the answer. Parents should step in if they know their child is being bullied, but not in that such way.
This woman had absolutely no right to get in a fight with a child in order to “protect” her son. Her son is fifteen years old! You’re telling me he can’t fight his own battles? I don’t care if he was be bullied or not, in the real world mommy is not always there to protect you, so grow thicker skin and stand up for yourself. As a good parent there comes a time when you need to realize this. You raised your child to the best of your ability and now you need to let them test out their wings before they are fully flying on their own. This mother could have helped her son without getting directly involved. She could have contacted the principle or guidance counselor to keep an eye out for her son and she could have talked to her son about the positive actions that he can take. People are mean, so there will always be bullies. Teach your children how to deal with them instead of beating on a child that is not even yours.
Bullying has become such a large part of teenagers lives recently. It is so sad how someone would ever feel te need to pick on someone else. Although, it is one thing for a mother to defend a five year old, not a fifteen year old. I undertand that the mother wants the best for her kid and doesnt like seeing them get hurt. But, the mother needs to let him learn to fight his own battles. He sould be able to stand up for himself. She also should never have touched her kids bullier. You cannot fight fire with fire and that was no way to solve the situation. The mother is not teaching a good lesson to her child and is not teaching him how to handle the situation correctly.
While bullying is awful and spreading like an epidemic, this mother was by no means setting any good example or making any efforts to improve the situation. A parent always teaches their child that physical violence solves nothing. This mother is contradicting that belief and proving to a bunch of young teenage boys that violence is okay.
I do however agree that a parent has every right to intervene in a situation where one feels their child isn't safe. This could be done through contacting the school, parents of the bully, and if all else fails, sue the school and/or parents. Physical violence, however, is inexcusable, and this mother should be ashamed.
After watching this video, I can understand why the woman attacked the student that was bullying her son. Even though it was wrong on so many levels for an adult to lay their hands on a child, no one deserves to be bullied. Bullying is a very prominent issue these days, and I don’t believe it is addressed as much as it should be.Clearly, that mother must have been very bothered by the bully’s words to physically hurt him and protect her son. Yes, this mother deserved to be punished for her actions, but somewhere in me, I almost feel that the bully deserved it. Schools should take a stand against bullying now, and take some action to stop the spread of this crime.This mother set a terrible example to her child showing that physical violence is okay, but a story like this needs to get the media’s attention so more actions against bullying can be taken. Even though this mother had good intentions to protect her son, she ended up in jail as a consequence.
When it comes to bullying, there is never just one simple way to solve the problem. Due to technology, children have been able to take bullying out of the school and even harrass others online. I can completely understand why the woman in the video acted and responded in the way she did. She was simply acting in a maternal matter and protecting her child. While that may have seemed to be the correct option in her mind, given the age of her child she should have reacted differently. As students are instructed over and over again, her son should have tried to resolve it himself (of course verbally)and if that didn't work he should have went to his principal to resolve the issue. A mother should not have any kind of a right to step in on a bullying situation in which their child is involved unless; the situation has already been discussed and brought up in the school abd if the confrontation occurs in a situation in which both the victim's and the bully's parents are together. In addition, if the child is 15 or 16 years old, it should be up to them, not the parent, to resolve the issue. It is important for the child to learn to deal with those kinds of situations.
Bullying is a worldwide issue that there is simply never going to be an end to. Although students learn all about bullying and prevention towards it, it always seems as though there are cases like these in which it still occurs today. This video shows that bullying never ends and that it is always continuing somewhere. In some ways people may say it is unstoppable unless an adult gets involved, which is true in this case. Although this mother in the video clip tried to stand up and defend her son, only to keep him safe, by abusing another student I believe what she did is wrong. Before taking matters into her own hands, literally, she should have discussed with her son how important it is to stand up for yourself. By discussing this with him she should have tried to influence him to solve the situation on his own. If this didn’t work the mother should’ve contacted the teachers, staff, and bus driver of the school to make them aware of the situation. By physically getting involved this mother definitely took it way to far which is why she ended up in jail. Overall parents should have the right respectively and maturely do whatever they can to defend their child without getting physically involved.
I think that bullying is among the most cowardly things one could possibly do. To pick on someone based off of no reason other then for personal enjoyment and pleasure is not only disgusting but also disgraceful. That being said, I think that if a kid is bullying your child, you should have every right to intervene. Though I don’t know if hitting another child when you’re a fully-grown woman is the right thing I think that this woman had every right to take action to protect her child. I also believe that the kid who was being bullied should also take matters into his own hands and stick up for himself. I don’t believe fighting would be the best way to do such a task but I believe that some how some way a kid needs to learn how to fight for and defend themselves because once in the real world, mommy and daddy wont be their to protect you every second of your life and you need to be able to rely on yourself and not just the help of others. The fighting that this woman showed was a little bit over the top and in way resembles both the good and bad in our society. On one hand it’s showing that you’re not going to just put up with someone and are willing to fight for your freedoms. But at the same time also shows what is wrong because she literally fought for her sons freedom in a barbaric and immature/ uncivilized way.
Bullying has become a huge issue in society today. Many teens and young adults find pleasure in bullying others however, it has created fear and animosity in many children or young adults. Bullying is a worldwide issue and isn't going to stop soon. Not only is it with younger kids but adults as well. I believe that if an individual is being bullied that they should report it to an adult or higher authority. This does not give the power to adults to be irrational with bullies and treat them poorly. I do not believe that the woman in this video should have taken matters into her own hands. Bullying a bully will not help the situation. The mother should have said something to the mother of the bully. By saying something to the child the mother could face serious issues such as Endangering the Welfare of a child. I believe thy the only way to decrease bullying is by education children at a young age of the consequences.
In the past decade the issue of bullying has been wide-spread across the nation. It is extremely common amongst teenagers. I do not believe that this mother approached the problem in the best appropriate manner. She is a grown adult and mother and she should have acted like an adult by solving the problem more rationally. It was good that the boy did tell his mom since the school wasn't acting on this bullying. The only problem is that as a mother unfortunately you don't have much power to stop another person from bullying your kid at school. It was totally inappropriate for the mother to take violent action on the bully to set him straight or teach him a lesson. I think the mother faced fair consequences by being sent to jail for this. She attacked a child. This then leads up to the very question, should parents have the right to step in these situations for the sake of their children? If a parent is that concerned then they should contact the school instead of getting involved with the bully. Although the mother solved this problem the wrong way, she is most likely a good mother who is very protective.
Bullying is a huge problem throughout the country todsy. Bullying needs to be stopped but parents shouldn't be able to beat up another kid. Parents should have more maturity and know that beating up another student isn't a way to stop a problem. The only way that the parent could have stepped into the situation is if she had saw her kid getting beat up and tried to break it up, but she had no right to just jump the bully. The mother should have called the school and talked to the principal about the problem that was occuring and let him discipline the bully. The mother attacking the bully did nothing other than getting herself arrested and embarressing herself.
Bullying, unfortunately, has become a major issue in today's society especially among teenagers. The mother of this boy tried to stick up for her son, however, she did violently and inappropriately. If she had confronted the boy and spoken to him about the matter then it would have been different, but she beat the boy up, which is completely unacceptable. Instead, the mother should had either talked to her son's school about the matter or even spoken directly to the parents of the bully. Either of these two methods would have been much more appropriate and sufficient then the mother beating up the teenage boy. Bullying should be watched more carefully now than ever because it is getting out of hand. Teenagers and even children are committing suicide, going through depression, cutting themselves, and even going after the bully and killing them. It is important to teach your children to ignore bullies or stick up to a bully with a group of friends because there is always strength in numbers. If that doesn't work, then talk to an adult who can help you through it. The mother of the boy should have never gotten into a physical fight with the teenage bully.
Most parents would have gone about their child getting bullied in a much different way, but the way this mother did sparked an attention to the issue that needed attention. Personally, she could have treated the situation much different, and reacted in a more mature way. I understand that she only wants her child to feel safe and not harmed which is understandable because thats what every parent should want for their child. There were many other paths she could have chose but unfortunately she didn't and it left her in trouble and now charges are being pressed. Its also alarming to think that she could have beaten up a young child like that also. I understand this mothers intentions for beating up the other child, I just dont agree on how she acted upon it.
This video does no justice for the mother. Yes, her son was getting bullied and yes bullying is wrong but there is no justification in beating the bully. To bully a bully is pretty hypocritical and quite frankly, stupid. If mothers/parents continue to shelter their children and continue to fight their child's fights when they get into the real world they wil be lost. I think that bullying now a days is just kids being insecure and scared. Stand up for yourself, whether fighting back or simply ignoring the bully. Having someone fight your battles will not help your situation. The mother in this case did all the wrong things and believes she did good. Beating another child, in public, and on a school owned school bus is never the appropriate action. This was an idiotic move by the mother and I'm sure that kid is going to here it from his fellow classmates. There is no way a mother can stop a bully without causing more problems.
I believe that parents should protect there children but only to a certain extent. Not to the extent shown in the video. I think the mothers’ response was completely unjust and uncalled for. She was very misguided in believing that physically assaulting the child was the best possible action. What made it worse was that it was on a crowded school bus in front of many of the other kids who attend the school. I'm all for parents trying to protect there child but only to a certain extent. You can’t shelter your children you need to let them experience life. They need to know that things happen and they need to know how to get over them. When the same type of situation presents itself in the future they will be more ready to handle it. Parents are meant to guide there children not act for them. Even if the mother thought this would help, she could have even made it worse. The children in the school could now bully the child for his mothers’ actions. In the long run the mother did more hurting, literally and figuratively, than she helped.
This comment is by Irina Heimerle
I believe that parents have every right to jump in on their child being bullied, but there are always limits. It was wrong for the mother to physically hit the child. Not only does this increase the chance for seeing as parents hitting children okay, but it also can increase the student to get bullied more. He will always be known for the son of the mom who hit the kid on the bus, unfortunately there is no going around this. So, all in all, bullying is an awful thing for people to do others, but this does not give any parent the right to abuse a child. I may feel this way because I do not have a child and maybe I will one day feel that I would do anything to keep my child safe, but as a teenager and a student I disagree with the parent who believed they could fully step in.
I think that the mother had every right to step in on her son being bullied. Bullying has become such a big issue in today's society. Although she had the right to step in and defend her son the way she reacted to the situation was very inappropriate. If the boy got violent with her first then she has a right to defend herself. But I dont think she should’ve boarded the bus and continued the situation. I dont believe she was being a very good example for her son. The smarter thing that she couldve done was either talk to the boy directly and acted in a approriate manner. Then spoken with the boys parents and if the boy was old enough the issue couldve been taken to the police and charges couldve been pressed. But now that she is being charged with child abuse she wont be there to do those things. Now her son may be in more danger because who is to say that the boy wont retaliate and hurt her son even more in order to get revenge. Due to the way she conducted herself the actions of the boy will be overlooked and the focus will be shifted to her and most likely the boy wont have any disciplinary action. The fact that that boy was bullying her son was just pathetic because he obviously had some issues of his own. So he needs to pick on other people to make himself feel better. Bullying is not acceptable at any age and now due to this day in age and the advancement of technology the issue of bullying has become even worse because there are no laws against cyberbullying. Sometimes a person creates a fake account on a social networking site its almost impossible to trace who it is unless the police get inovolved and the police cant get involved unless an actual threat is made. I do believe however that her son shoulve tried to resolve the issue on his own but, we don’t know whether or not he tried to because we don’t know the full story. I do believe the boy needed a good “whoopin” but it wasn’t to be given by her it was to be given by the boys parents. Either way the woman should not have gotten physical with the minor. Now she needs to face the consequences of her actions.
I believe that parents should protect there children no matter what but only to a certain degree. They shouldn't Do it the way it was shown in the video. I think the mothers’ response was completely uncalled for and what out of proportion. It was wrong for the mother to physically hit the child because she shouldn't have ever taken it into her own hands it should have went to administrators. There was no need for her to attack the boy because he deserved "whoopin" if she really wanted him to stop she would have told people that could take care of it and get rid of the bullying. These days bullying is becoming way to big of a problem and needs to be stopped but it shouldn't be taken in your own hands.
I think that Parents should have the right to stand up for their bullied child, however, i believe that the parent should not have to resolve to physical action. problems can be easily solved in other ways besides violence. by beating up the bully, the parent was being just as much of a bully. the parent should have taken a more responsible and mature approach to the situation by either contacting the authorities, principal, or the bully's parents. All in all, bullying needs to be stopped and also handled in better ways other than violence. In order to stop bullying amongst the young, the adults need to set proper examples for children and teens. The woman was just in protecting her child but unjust in taking a violent approach in doing so.
written by Josh Castro
I think that the mother did have a right to react the way but should not have. With being an adult, you have to show some restraint when dealing with these situations and this mother acted very irresponsibly. Bullying is ofcourse still a very serious issue though and I do think that this mother gave her son alot of confidence by doing this and maybe avoided him some stress and pain that would have occured if she didn't do anything. Many times these situations become extreme due to people avoiding it and trying to ignore it until it becomes tragic. There are soo many stories of people swtiching schools and even killing themselves due to being bullied. So when I see things like this, I kind of support it because I know that the situation was put to an end there. However, the mother ofcourse should not have hit a child and is now suffering the consequences.
Although the mother felt obligated to protect her child I don't believe that what she did was entirely right. She was spoken to in a disrespectful manner, but she is also an adult and should know not to react with violence. Parents should be role models for their children and showing violence in front of young kids can affect them for the rest of their lives believe it or not. God forbid the mother wasn't around to help her son he would have to come to a conclusion of this situation himself, which is way it should have been handled. The child should have to make a decision to solve the conflict, learn a lesson and move on from it as a more experienced child, but since his mother got involved he is learning the wrong life lessons and that is not what a mother should be teaching, let alone showing her child.
Although the mother felt obligated to protect her child I don't believe that what she did was entirely right. She was spoken to in a disrespectful manner, but she is also an adult and should know not to react with violence. Parents should be role models for their children and showing violence in front of young kids can affect them for the rest of their lives believe it or not. God forbid the mother wasn't around to help her son he would have to come to a conclusion of this situation himself, which is way it should have been handled. The child should have to make a decision to solve the conflict, learn a lesson and move on from it as a more experienced child, but since his mother got involved he is learning the wrong life lessons and that is not what a mother should be teaching, let alone showing her child.
The video just shows that people don't know how to control their emotions. Parents and there children should talk about the problem and get teachers and principals involved to stop it. Beating up a bully doesn't solve the problem. I believe bullying happens everywhere and I personally have a little cousin who has autism, I a afraid for him that when he grows up he will be teased and bullied And honestly I feel helpless because I can't do anything to prevent it, I just hope kids act differently by the time he is in Highschool.
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